When so called small stuff do not entertain us, we leave it in middle and our unamused mind moves further to find other things of amusement which it never finds. We fail to appreciate small things in life which develops the art (skill) of leaving (quitting) and which is why we are likely to stop thinking about the art of living.

We live in a world full of imperfections, and, luckily, we are not perfect either. Luckily, because being imperfect offers us the possibilities of learning, change and hope. It inspires us to make an effort and it prevents us from getting bored. However, for the one who complains it seems that the world should be perfect. With such a habit it becomes something natural to think how things should or shouldn’t be or could or could not be.

When you complain, your energy and clarity reduce and your unhappiness increases. You don’t accept what there is or what is, as it is. Your complaints lead you to criticism and to useless gossip for others. In these kinds of conversations time and energy are lost and mistrust and unhappiness are generated. Relationships are harmed and then require a good investment of time and energy to get back the lost trust.

Someone who complains regularly expects the world to make them happy and the Universe to dance to their music. As things are almost never as they want, they are in a state of constant complaint. While doing so one don’t realize that happiness comes from within and is cultivated within rather they keep on expecting situations and others to make them happy. And, as this does not happen, they complain constantly and slip into the compulsive complaining syndrome.

The people who often complains feels disappointed and gets discouraged within. Eventually they may land on a feeling that they are imperfect themselves in the imperfect system and they feel weakened inside.

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The person who almost never complains has realized that every time they complain they focus on something negative, and the first person to suffer is, in effect, themselves, since it reduces their energy level and they feel worse. The person who never complains accepts what is as it is, what comes as it comes, and what happens as it happens. However, if they consider that something has to be changed, they put their energy into making it happen.

Two people react differently to a same situation. The complainer suffers and reacts immediately by making a greater complaint. He gets into such a bad mood because of this that it generates a really unhappy feeling deep inside him. The individual or entity from his environment, in turn, gets a defensive. The other person who doesn’t complain remains quiet and tries to understand the environment. He may inform the individual from his environment for the corrective action.. He doesn’t get angry or into a bad mood; and therefore, he doesn’t suffer. He accepts that, at times, such things happen! To inform and ask is not to complain; it is to give feedback and to make a request. The difference between both is the difference between an emotional reaction and a proactive response.

I need to understand the fact that the bondage is in fact not outside but within my own mind. I also need to realise the fact that nothing is forced on me but whatever happens to me is my own choice. When I take responsibility in this way I will not complain but will make the best out of every situation and I will find myself experiencing true freedom. If there is something that doesn’t go as you would like it to go, use mental energy to construct, create, transform or solve but do not complain.

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