Do you think that you aren’t special enough? Do you have a life that revolves around seeking everyone’s approval? Do you often feel hurt by others or do you habitually start comparing yourself to others. Do you always try to ‘please’ your fellow beings? If your answer is “Yes” then this post is for you.

If you are obsessed with what others think about you and feel low if someone disapproves you? If you keep concentrating about what others think of you and you run here & there then sooner or later, you will be running faster than you can, working harder than you can until you get exhausted. Soon, you will feel you can’t live up to everyone’s expectations. And then you will feel helpless.

We please one person. Another one comes; we do something different to please him. The cycle goes on and on and on. And sooner it runs out of our scope. And even if we are able to please most of the people by the end we are not happy with ourselves.

More often than not we do things to please others, as we feel it’s natural to meet benchmark set by others and it’s inhuman to betray them. So stop and retrospect yourself and try to value your happiness.

The obvious answer to this is fear. We fear of being rejected. We fear of being discarded. We fear of being disapproved. We fear of others’ cold responses to us if we fail to please them. We need to let go this fear. We need to free our mind from this botheration.

There is a saying, “Please everyone, and you will please none”. And it’s more than true. We can’t please everyone around. You need to live life for yourself. Value what pleases you. Yes you have to keep others with you but that doesn’t mean that everyone around you have to be happy with you. Please few. Upset few also. There has to be a balance. And if you can’t make that balance between your people, you will have to compensate it with yourself. All will be happy, except you.

If you lose people because you couldn’t please them, don’t be sad, they were never worth keeping. So, if you are affected with this complex, get yourself cured now. There is no medicine. All you need is to live for yourself and try to be yourself.