After his couple of resolutions to quit smoking when yet again I saw my colleague doing the same I asked him to check it by doing the root cause analysis. Though he knew how injurious it is but he had been smoking because something from inside attracts him to do so.
Shaping the mold
For me, it is a matter of will. Most of us think that once the clay has been molded and fired into a vase nothing can happen, but I believe that we can pulverize the vase and add that powder to fresh clay and then form into the desired shape. Willpower is the instrument to change. Do not perform that habit with a blank head but use your power of suggestion, the ability to accomplish is all in mind.
Do not try to change in yourself what is good, but those things you do against your will, and that make you unhappy after you have done them, are what you want to get rid of. Bad habits are the worst enemies we can have. We are punished by these habits and are left to suffer the consequences. Failure to keep your schedule of improvement means that you have paralyzed your will.
The best way to get rid of these undesirable tendencies is, not to acknowledge them. Never concede that a habit has a hold on you. “How can I be made to do what I don’t like to do?” our conscious mind has been conditioned to think that it is self-hypnotized by that habit. When you refuse to acknowledge any habit, that is the end of it.
Focus on changing not eradicating
In fact, habits can never be erased from us, so we must develop “Won’t Habits” as a counterattack to bad habits. Many years back when I found myself smoking frequently, irrespective of the fact that I didn’t want to do so, immediately with a larger strength I smilingly determined “Good-Bye Smoking”.
The sufferer should seek the company of the strong. People who have no control should associate with those who are self-disciplined with such an example before him one will begin to reason, “I also can control”. And then one becomes what he thinks he is.
We are the master of every moment of our life…
Right but telling you very very tough…
Good post. When we realise we are not slaves to, but masters of ourselves, the world is our oyster.